General Manners to Teach to Young Children
1. Teach children to use the right hand for eating, drinking, giving and taking. To eat and drink while sitting, and to stay, 'Bismillah' before eating and, 'Alhamdulillah' after finishing.
2. Teach children hygienic etiquette, to clip fingernails and toe nails, and to wash hands before and after eating.
3. Teach them how to clean themselves after using the toilet and how to keep urine off their clothes.
4. Correct their mistakes kindly and privately without scolding them.
5. Instruct them to listen to the Adhaan quietely and repeat the words of Adhaan after the Muadhin, then to ask Allah to exalt the mention of the Prophet [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] and supplicate the following, 'O Allah, the Rabb (Lord) of this complete invitation, and the ready prayer, grant Muhammad the means and the virtue, and raise him to a praised rank which You have promised him.'
6. Assign each of them a separate bed, if possible, otherwise a separate cover. It is most preferable to have a room for girls and another for boys.
7. Instruct them to remove harmful objects off the road and not to throw litter on it.
8. Warn against bad company and against loitering.
9. Greet children with Assalaamu alaykum at home, in school, and in public.
10. Instruct children to be kind to neighbours and to be helpful to them, and avoid bothering or disturbing them.
11. Instruct them to be courteous to guests and to treat them with generosity.
The rule of Music and Singing
It is the duty of the educators to warn children against listening to music and singing. Allah states, 'And of men who take idle talk to lead men away from the path of Allah without knowledge, and make fun of it. For such there will be humiliating punishment.' (31:6)
Most scholars are agreed that idle talk is nothing but singing. Ibn Mas'ood [radhiallaahu anhu] said the same. Allah also addressed Satan saying, 'And excite whoever you can with your sound.' (17:64)
The Prophet [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] said, 'There will be from my Ummah those who will deem as lawful; fonircation, silk (for Muslim males), liquor and music.'
The great scholar Mujahid and others said, 'The sound of Satan is music and singing.'
Singing of Today
Most, if not all, of the singing today talks about love, voluptuous desires, kissing and details of a woman's body and other sexual connotations, things that excite the youth and incite them to establish illicit relations.
The best way to combat the habit of listening to music is reading the Qur'aan and the rememberance of Allah, and reading the Seerah or the biography of the Prophet [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam].
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