caring for someone is not difficult but keeping a relationship healthy is a two
way effort. KP! takes a look...
question that crosses the mind whenever one has a fight with his/her partner
is, ‘Am I happy in my relationship?’ We all want to make our relationships work
so we can achieve happiness together for the rest of our lives. But how can one
improve a relationship? Being loving and caring about someone is not difficult
but keeping a relationship healthy is a two way effort. The couple in a
relationship becomes a ‘we’ and is connected to each other in a strong bond.
Unfortunately, relationships break down around us all the time, due to
misunderstandings that are caused. Most people go through life without
understanding the key essentials that can make or break their relationship and
how they can keep the baggage of bitterness out of their relationship. Read on
to find out ways that can help you strengthen your relationship.
important aspect of a successful relationship is proper communication. In a
good relationship you and your partner should never feel uncomfortable talking
about anything. If you have argued over something, never go to sleep at night
without asking the other’s forgiveness. Also, many couples who argue have the
fear that their relationship is a mistake or a potential future disaster. Many
relationship psychologists have revealed that couples with a healthy level of
understanding identify and discuss the issues whereas couples who are unhappy
simply run away from their problems. By talking things out one can transform
one’s relationship into something special; a bond that is on a higher level.
Allow your partner to realise that you are an individual and should be treated
as an individual and offer your partner with the same respect.
respect the likes and dislikes of your partner, and your partner should do the
same for you. Each person is allowed to have their own opinion, listen to what
the other person is saying and if you disagree, talk about it. Think about
giving your partner room to grow as an individual and do the same for yourself as
well. By giving them space to grow will add strength to your relationship.
Relationships are always based on the 50-50 rule. Do not be eager to have your
own way if you want to have a long and happy relationship. Make it your goal to
give in more than 50% of the time, and take pleasure in letting your partner
have his/her way as often as you can. Very closely listen to your partner
whenever he/she starts telling you where you are going wrong. Share ideas and
decisions regarding how your time and money will be spent, how finances should
be managed and how various circumstances should be dealt with. Never assume
that you know your partner’s thoughts, feelings, or desires. Do not assume your
partner understands you either. Always bring things out so there are no
misunderstandings and encourage your partner to do the same.
Never focus on each
other’s negativities. Always emphasise the positives and force yourself to
reflect upon them frequently. Avoid saying anything negative or critical about
your partner in public, even to your best friends. You might be strongly
tempted to do this, but it only devalues your relationship more and can make
the situation worse as it always creates misunderstandings. Maintain the
relationship in every way possible and never ever compare your relationship to
others. Not your parent’s, not your friend’s, not your coworker’s, not that
couple’s relationship that seems perfect all the time, because that will not
help even a bit but instead will create a mess. To make your relationship the
healthiest and the best, you both have to participate actively in keeping it
positive. Individual tastes and preferences are in every one of us, no two
people like the same things all the time. Your love and commitment to each
other should grow over the years. The longer you have been married, the more
history you have together. The triumphs and disappointments, the successes and
the failures, all are part of sharing a life together. And that history is
unique to you and no one else has that or can duplicate it.
Strength Of Love
Last but not
least, love each other every day. Express your love often and in different
ways. Do things to keep your love and romance alive; never stop treating each
other like sweethearts. Talk to each other and do various things together. Do
not let external values affect the internal feelings of your heart and do all
that can be done to make you both happy. Every decision made should be for the
best of your relationship. Keep telling your partner how much you care about
him/her. Do it even though you know that he/she knows. Most importantly, never
take love for granted. Keep in mind that after your parents and children are
gone, your partner is the only person who will stay with you for the rest of
together ‘no matter what’, stick in there and make things works as there is no
question of separation!